Two busy weeks.
One stop together.
Jot things down as the week happens. Once a week, talk them through together and leave with a recap and pacts for the week ahead.
Download on the App StoreAndroid waitlistMon · bins again
Tue · feeling far away
Fri · we never plan weekends
Sunday 8pm · the check-in
Mon · bins again
Tue · feeling far away
Fri · we never plan weekends
Sunday 8pm · the check-in
The talk
Talk with structure, not spirals.
One of you sends a request and the other accepts, so nobody has to open with “can we talk?”. Then sit down for 30 to 60 minutes and work through the agenda your notes built during the week. A timer keeps one topic from eating the whole hour.
Apart this week? Run the same check-in over in-app video.
Recap
A recap you both agree on.
The check-in is recorded so the app can write up what you covered: the topics you kept coming back to, what you settled and what is still open. You both read the same summary, and each of you gets a short “for you” view of your own side.
Pacts
Leave with one small pact.
Before you finish, choose your pacts for the week ahead: small, specific things to try before next Sunday. These three are from the Pacts screen in the app.
- Phones away after dinnerPick one evening this week and put your phone in a drawer after you eat.
- Name the exit time before you arriveBefore the family dinner, agree on a specific time you'll leave and say it out loud to each other.
- Ask before the story runsWhen you notice yourself imagining the worst version of what your partner meant, stop and ask.
Private notes
Keep it private until you're ready.
Write it down when it happens, while it is still small. Mark a note private and your partner won't see it until you share it. Their private notes show up on your side as blurred bars, and yours do on theirs.
- Recording
- Each check-in is recorded to write your recap. The audio is deleted after transcription, usually within about 72 hours.
- What stays
- Transcripts, notes and recaps stay in your account until you delete it.
- Leaving
- Delete your account and its data any time. Read the privacy policy.
Lately
Notice patterns before they become problems.
After a few weeks the app starts to point out what keeps coming up: whether one of you has been doing most of the talking, which topics return, and how the mood of your check-ins has been trending.
If you were sent this
Sent this by your partner?
- Does this mean something's wrong?
- No. It's built for ordinary couples: the bins, the in-laws, the weekend plans, talked about before they turn into a bigger thing.
- Is it therapy?
- No. It's a structure for a conversation you two run yourselves. If things feel unsafe or stuck, a professional is the right call.
- Can my partner read my notes?
- Not the private ones. A private note stays on your side until you choose to share it.
- Do we need to be in the same room?
- No. You can hold the check-in over in-app video, with the same agenda on both screens.
- How much time does it take?
- One check-in a week, usually 30 to 60 minutes, plus a few seconds whenever one of you jots a note down.
Next stop: closer
Your first stop is this Sunday.
Download it, send your partner the invite, and start adding notes tonight. By Sunday you will have an agenda.
Not sure where to start? Try the relationship health check.